Reacting vs. Teaching

Monica Jacobson connecting the dots between self-conscious child training and functional, productive adulthood:

“My parents spent a lot of effort trying to make sure their kids didn’t act like brats. I always assumed that meant that we behaved civilly to people and didn’t throw temper tantrums. Very often. It seemed a very sensible arrangement, and a necessary survival technique for large families. Now that we have children of our own, I’m beginning to see how everything fits together and how those common sense ideas made a huge difference in my life, and hopefully in the lives of my children. My parents used different terms, but boiled down, they tried to teach us the difference between a problem solver and an entitled person. It’s really a matter of being well brought up; taught that consideration to others is of prime importance…”

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